Want to go and hide in a cave and make it all go away forever? Read this first!

 

It’s easy to get bogged down and depressed by the distress and hurt and misery and searing pain that exists in the world, to want to wallow in a pit of disgust, fear and mud.  To think, really – no really – what is the fucking point, I’m actually just going to go and live the rest of my life in this nearby cave.

We are constantly bombarded with news so depressing and stories so upsetting that you can’t help but think that humanity is just made up of pigs, (sorry pigs) and stupid dangerous imbeciles.

Aaarghhhhhhh!!!

I’m depressing myself again. The world is not full of awful people; at least they don’t make up the majority.

My point is this:  We know life is not a bed of roses.

Don’t be apathetic, of course, but don’t imagine that the fear and hatred and bullshit we see all around us is all there is, and don’t focus only on what is not helpful.  Of course we have to acknowledge that awful things exist –  only then can we attempt to do something about them. But don’t dwell in that place which  makes you feel more upset, or so numb, fearful and overwhelmed that you get into a state of paralysis and retreat inward, put up walls, and refuse to participate fully in life.

That’s the easy thing to do.  It’s easier to feel so much overwhelm you do nothing.  It’s easier to block everything out and become a sneery cynic, or choose to not believe that you can make a difference, because it’s all too uncomfortable anyway.  It’s easier to stay on the same path than change course, as that involves getting up and moving and doing something different.

However….

Let’s not forget the fact that there is so much good going on in the world too.  So many good people, and good news, and touching stories, and kindnesses, and compassion, and love.

Here’s a story I often think back to when I need reminding that people on this planet don’t just want to hurt each other.

A long time ago, when I was a wee lass of 19 tender years I went travelling with a friend on a round the world ticket.

Footloose and fancy free!

We had been staying in Bali and were due to fly to Singapore to visit a family friend. Foolishly, (because we were young and reckless, and living in the moment) we had let our money run out almost completely.  We knew we would be looked after in Singapore, and from there we’d be heading home, so, you know, no problem.

But… we hadn’t counted on having to pay airport tax.

We were in a tiny hut of an airport in Bali in 1994. There were approximately six other people in the airport,  three of whom were staff. When we said we couldn’t pay the tax (about 20 USD each, about three nights’ food and accommodation in Bali ), the ground staff started taking back our backpacks from the conveyor belt.

Nooooooooo!

We had about 16 dollars between us.  No debit or credit cards.

It dawned on me that we were in a potentially dangerous situation.

I looked around.  Before I could properly think about what I was doing I approached a woman and asked if we would be able to borrow some money.  Feeling vulnerable and humiliated I started crying before I could get the words out.

She was such a nice woman!  She smiled.  She paid the tax.  She gave us extra cash.   She refused to give us her address so we could pay her back when we got home. She said she had a daughter our age.

We saw her later on the flight where we’d been amusingly upgraded to business class.   The universe was clearly having a bit of fun with us that day.

This beautiful kind stranger informed us she couldn’t let us get off the plane until she had given us more money, because what would we do once we landed?  Our friend wouldn’t be meeting us at the airport as he didn’t know when we were coming. (We had the wrong phone number for him, as it turned out.)  We were literally going along to an unfamiliar country on a wing and a prayer.

She ended up giving us about 150 dollars. She said the way we could repay her was to do the same for someone else, should we one day find ourselves in a similar situation where the roles were reversed.

Thank you lovely lovely person whose name we never even found out!

I will remember and treasure you forever.

What I am trying to say is this:

Be kind.  Have compassion for your fellow humans in trouble or caught up in their particular pain and grievance and bullshit.  Do the right thing.  Live in alignment with your values.  If you are able to help someone or make their world the tiniest bit better then do it without question, because what’s the alternative?  Be inspired by the good people and the countless small acts of kindness you no doubt experience every day,  if you look hard enough.  Act how you know you can if you really try.

Remember the good stuff that’s buried not that far underneath the surface.  Start with yourself.   Don’t underestimate your power and the agency you really have.  We can never know how far-reaching the consequences of our actions might be.

And that, my friends, is the tiniest bit of comfort I am holding onto at the moment.

That, and Joe’s amazing vegan orange cake.

Lots of love! xxx

PS  If you fancy some escapism in the form of offbeat and uplifting art for your walls, pop along to my Etsy shop here

 

Words to use and avoid if you want to feel good!

 

The words we choose have an enormous influence on how we feel and the way we view ourselves and our lives.

You, my beautiful – precious – unique – cherub, are important, so let your language reflect that.

All of us matter and all of us have our own specific work to do in the world.  You’re here for a reason, cheeky chops.  If we are to fulfill our potential and make the most of our limited time here on the planet then we need to recognise the significant role that the words we use play in shaping our reality.

Yeah baby!

Here are some simple but effective ways to start using language as a tool of self-respect, empowerment and love:

 

Eliminate or reduce certain unhelpful words from your vocabulary.

 

I was having a really interesting conversation the other day, (with myself, but never mind about that), in which I was mulling over a topic and telling myself I found something quite inspiring.

Nothing wrong with that, you might assume.

Then I thought, why am I using the word ‘quite’?  I find this topic inspiring, full stop.  Or even – very or super – inspiring, there’s no ‘quite’ about it, so why am I tempering my true opinion with a ‘quite’?

What’s going on here?

Am I in some sort of misplaced self protective/fearful mode, afraid to simply make the declaration that for me something *is* inspiring,  as in, if I make such a bold statement without diluting it first then I might be made a fool of, should I later be proven wrong (even though that would be impossible because a, I’m never wrong, and b, it’s an opinion we’re talking about here..)

Or Is it because I am typically English and don’t want to ‘make a fuss’, or draw vulgar attention to myself, and I subconsciously believe I’d be ‘coming on too strong’ for some people, making it difficult for them to disagree with me because I’ve been so brazen as to state something as if it were an indisputable fact.  Which I actually haven’t anyway, as I’ve said it  only as an opinion.  And in my own head, for the love of god!

I know, I know, you wish you could be as calm and peaceful as my zen-like mind.

But seriously, don’t underestimate the potency and influence your words can have on your well-being and life in general.  It might seem far-fetched, but if you are constantly watering down the verbal expression of your feelings, or afraid to fully express your views (and therefore yourself) in all your magnificent glory, then over time this will send a clear message to your subconscious of smallness and unworthiness.

I’ve resolved to stop saying the word ‘quite’ unless I am quite* deliberately intending to modify/strenghthen/lessen the impact of whatever adjective it is I am using.

*Ha ha!  See what I did there?!

Another  unnecessary word to consider banishing is ‘just’, a word which can add an unwelcome hurried, harried feel to a conversation, and which can make you seem timidly diminished.

Think of the difference between: ‘I’m just going to do this’ and ‘I’m going to do this’,

or:

‘Can I just ask a question?’ and ‘Can I ask a question?’

It sounds so much cleaner and clearer and expansive without the ‘just’! AmIrightorwhat??????

The ‘just’ is so meek and subservient!  It’s like apologising or seeking permission for going about your business, doing something, or having something to say, having an opinion, or just existing!

You are entitled to your place in the universe as much as everyone else! Claim it with pride! As long as you are respectful and kind –  then stand tall, be here and be your glorious self without any kind of implied apology!

 

Amp up the volume on certain words.

 

Conversely, a bit of auto-suggestion or acting ‘as if’ with the words you use can have a powerfully positive effect on how you feel.  I don’t mean by being or saying anything false, but rather to play up, accentuate, amplify and shift your focus onto what already exists that is positive.

So for example if someone asks how you are, and you’re feeling generally well and happy enough, then reply that you feel ‘great’ instead of merely ‘good’, and the chances are that you will then actually feel great rather than just good!

 

Say thank you instead of sorry.

 

Another idea I read about recently  (I think somewhere on Randi Buckley’s lovely and extremely helpful blog) is to substitute ‘thank you’ for ‘sorry’, as in ‘thank you for waiting for me’ rather than ‘sorry I’m late’, ‘thanks for understanding that I can’t do that favour,’ instead of ‘I’m sorry I can’t do you the favour’, ‘thank you for taking the time to explain something to me,’ instead of preempting a question with ‘Sorry to bother you, sorry to be a pain but…’ etc.

I find this truly empowering!  You still acknowledge the other person and their needs, but you’re coming from a positive place of gratitude and appreciation for that person, rather than making a negative apology for yourself.

Of course saying thank you rather than sorry is no substitute when you have actually done something wrong that you truly need or want to apologise for!

 

Notice the way you talk to yourself.

 

Nourishing words only!  Be kind.  Everything is better if you can be your own best friend and hold your own hand.  Speak to yourself like you matter.  Because, hello, you do.

 

Be aware of how you describe yourself and your life to other people.

 

You’ll start believing what you say, so you might as well make it half full. And again, I’m not talking about making stuff up or embellishing, or glossing over the crap that happens or that you feel. Just don’t give it unnecessary attention or energy which could be more helpfully put to use elsewhere.

 

The language we use is without a doubt prescriptive as well as descriptive, and is a hugely powerful form of expression.

Let’s treat our verbal language – and with it, ourselves – with the importance it deserves. Whether that means using it as a tool of respect for yourself and other people, learning to talk to and about yourself with kindness and love, thinking nourishing thoughts instead of beating yourself up, or simply having some awareness of the kind of effect words have on our lives and in the world.

Thanks for reading, Pretty ones!  Let me know in the comments if I’ve missed any salient points.  I might do another post on this, as for the sake of length and not wanting to rant I deliberately didn’t talk about labelling and the word vagina.  Gasp!

 

More love-inducing words and art to make you feel good over in my Etsy shop

Life is really not a beautiful ride. Or rosy.

 

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Hi sugar puffs

I’m struggling with this a bit at the moment.

Of course we all know life is NOT always a beautiful ride, so is it just annoying and delusional to act like it is, or is it merely focusing on the positive side of things without actually silmataneously denying that all the bad and difficult and hideous and heart wrenching times exist?

Sometimes I feel inane and flimsy going round trying to have a positive take on most things.  Surely some things simply don’t have a positive take, and it isn’t gloomy or depressing or naysaying to acknowledge that.

There are beautiful and comedic moments to be had in the darkest hours, ok, but isn’t it a bit insulting to be continuously walking round hands in pockets metaphorically whistling It’s a Wonderful Life? (although I must say I absolutely love that film!)

Ho hum pigs bum.  What’s your opinion?

Having said all that, I really like the picture in the photo above that a friend got for my birthday, and it gives me pleasure to look upon it.  I’d take lot less pleasure from it if the words said ‘Life is a fucking nightmare,’ or something like that.

Ooh that maybe the first time I’ve sworn on this blog, hope no one is offended!  I actually swear like a trooper a lot of the time, (gasp!)  although I’ve curbed that somewhat what with having a small child with big ears around the place.  (He hasn’t literally got big ears.)

I’ll save my gratitude list for my next post, which I will definitely try to squeeze in before our baby comes (in one week if she’s on time!  Wowsers!)

Oh, and I’ve got a mailing list now, so let’s be pen pals!

Hope your day goes swimmingly,

Jenny xx

Check out my Etsy shop here!

4 weeks to go…woop woop!

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Excitingly, I found this almost-finished collage in my art journal book.  I call it my art journal but I don’t actually do any art journalling in there!  I just use it to make collages that I intend to turn into prints or greetings cards.

I would like to do art journalling and PLAY a bit more, but find I’d rather be doing other more ‘serious’ creative stuff whenever I get the time.

Which I know is actually completely counter-productive because with art journalling you can mess around and play and it doesn’t matter if you make mistakes.

You can experiment and discover new methods and tecniques or whatever, and I would most likely come up with something better or more original than what I create intentionally, but I can’t seem to get myself to do it!

I can’t get away from the idea that I should be doing something concrete that’s going to further my fledgling business…gah!  I didn’t realise I was such a serious person, ha ha!  Any tips?

The words ‘hello you’ make me laugh as well because they remind me of my friend Cath’s lovely boyfriend Diego (who is so chirpy and smiley and genuine the whole world loves him!) who picked up the expression a while ago and didn’t stop saying it every chance he could.

Anyway, I’m pleased to have found the collage, which only needed a couple of finishing touches – as it brings me a step closer to my goal of having 100 items for sale in my Etsy shop.  Woo hoo!  I’m up to 95 at the moment, and I’m determined to make it to 100 before our baby comes.  (4 weeks tomorrow if she’s on time…)

I hope all is well in your world my jelly beans, here’s to an intensely productive 4 weeks!!

3 Ordinary Things Worth Celebrating

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Linking in with the lovely The Petit Cadeau and Joyful Roots blogs for a community blog tour of everyday things worth celebrating.  Hooray!

Here’s my  list of 3 out-of-the-ordinary things I believe are worth celebrating: Stay tuned for further installments, I have many more items to add!

1.  Getting old.

A lot of people in the world don’t get that privilege. I’ll worry about potential ill-health when the time comes, but in the meantime another grey hair and wrinkle is going to be cause to celebrate! I’m still here!  I’m alive and kicking and look how far I’ve come!

I love how we as humans emulate nature – the seasons, the phases of the moon.

Well I’m entering middle age, and I plan to embrace it!  That doesn’t mean I can’t still be young at heart, of course, it just means that for me since I became a mother 2 years ago I have felt completely ready to be fully in this second phase of my life.  I’m finally happy to be a crafty nerdy homebody that stays at home all the time, doesn’t smoke or go out til 8am every weekend.  That’s something to celebrate!

I will also hopefully have the pleasure of growing old with my husband and little boy.  Watch my son grow up.  I know children grow up so quickly and I plan to document as much as I can – stopping short when the process of documentation gets in the way of savouring the moment for itself.

(Read the classic Jenny Joseph poem and watch The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel film for further getting old celebration!)

2.  Giving and Receiving Compliments.

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I’m such a big fan of compliments – both the giving and the receiving.  When I receive a compliment I try to write it down and put it in a special compliments scrapbook I’ve made.  I often forget, but I love the idea anyway!! I write the date, the compliment, and who said it to me. It’s such a lovely thing to look back on, all the more so if you’ve had a bad day or are feeling a bit down on yourself.

I think it’s important to try to accept any compliments we’re given.  I know it can be difficult, (especially as women, as we’re basically indoctrinated from birth to be self deprecating), but a smile and a thank you and not a self put-down both acknowlege the giver of the compliment and train the mind of your future self that you are worthy to receive future compliments!

And on the flipside:  Giving someone a compliment can be such a simple thing to do yet yield such massive results.  What’s not to like?!! Maximum output for minimum input!  I’ll never forget the time I told one of my dad’s friends his new haircut really suited him – he grinned from ear to ear and his face lit up like I’d completely made his day!  It was wonderful!  I was a bit taken aback by what an effect I’d had by something I’d thought so little over.

Anyway my point is it’s a very easy way to make someone happy.  I’m not talking about saying something for the sake of it or saying something false, but If I think something nice about someone I make a point of saying it.  I’ve started doing it with strangers too, which admittedly makes me feel a bit of an idiot at times, but I can assure you it’s completely worth it!

Compliment scrapbooks make amazing presents too by the way.  For my mum’s 60th birthday and when some friends left Barcelona I asked people what their favourite memories about that person were or what they loved most about them, and compiled all the answers together in a little arty book.

Hearing such nice details and anticipating the joy the recipient is going to feel at all those lovely things others treasure  about her is almost as good as being on the receiving end of something like that myself….(double win!)

I also make a point to pass on compliments I’ve heard said about someone. Why not, eh?  A bit of positivity is always worth sharing…

3.  Writing to-do lists and paying bills.

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I’ve recently got into decorating daily planners, which apparently is a big ole phenomenon I’ve been missing out on!  Suzi Blu mentioned this Facebook Page and since I discovered that I’ve been making my daily diary pretty with washi tape and glitter and stickers and revelling in being 10 years old again!  There’s something to be said for making the ordinary parts of the everyday special, or adding a bit of positive attention and mindfulness to them, and I can happily report that I now enjoy writing my daily to-do lists because they look so pretty!

And as for paying bills…well, of course it’s mostly done online now, but getting into the habit of keeping records and accounts- of what we usually see as boring or negative parts of life- in really pretty stationery, and using a favourite pen to do it, really makes a difference to how you approach such chores.

Also, as I believe SARK once said, try changing your attitude to being grateful. Instead of cursing utility companies for having such sky-high prices, start at least acknowledging the fact that we’re in a somewhat privileged position to have access to and be in a position to pay for running water, electricity, gas, all on demand.  How often do these things really not work or go wrong?  Not very often!!

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What ordinary things do you believe are worth celebrating?

With love and ordinariness,

Jenny xx

PS  I’m so okay with imperfection these days (thanks Brené Brown) I’ve even included the last photo which has the ‘d’ from ‘daily’ and the Thursday stickers missing!!  Ha ha!!

11 quotations to make you feel rosy

 

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I love collecting, all the more so when it consists of items which can be documented on paper rather than physical objects – not so messy or space-consuming!

I’ve been collecting quotations and paragraphs that jump out at me from books, magazines, songs and overheard conversations since the age of 14.  I have them all documented in notebooks and scrapbooks, which are great to look back on. They also serve as a kind of journal, a reminder of what was important to me or what particuarly spoke or stood out to me at that time in my life.

You might well have heard most of these before.  The oldies are the goodies! The quotations I’m including below are old and new (to me) that I continue to find relevant and inspiring, in the hope that you might too.  I’ll definitely be turning some of them into collages in the future!

If you have any other amazing favourites I’d love to hear them!

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“If you stuff yourself full of poems, essays, plays, novels, stories, films, comic strips, magazines, music, you automatically explode every morning like Old Faithful. I have never had a dry spell in my life, mainly because I feed myself well, to the point of bursting.  I wake early and hear my morning voices leaping around in my head like jumping beans.  I get out of bed to trap them before they escape.” (Ray Bradbury)

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“When he said home it always sounded so natural.  This residence filled with the scent of fermenting fruits, cigarette butts, French perfume and alcohol, filled with books and music and limitless space for fantasizing, was tightly wrapped around our bodies like a bank of clouds from enchanted forests.”

I have no idea where the above quotation is from.  I didn’t note down the source (foolish me in the past!!)  All I remember is that it comes from a novel set somewhere eastern, maybe Japan or Vietnam.  Let me know if it sounds familiar to you!!!!

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“If you’re not being rejected, you’re not reaching far enough.”  (Albert Wiggam)

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“You need only claim the events of your life to make yourself yours.  When you truly possess all that you hae been and done, which may take some time, you are fierce with reality.” (Florida Scott Maxwell)

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“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” (Anaïs Nin)

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“Sometimes we don’t notice that we are loved like fish don’t notice they are swimming in water.  We are surrounded by an ocean of love.” (source unknown to me)

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“Perhaps all the dragons in our life are princesses who are only waiting to see us act, just once, with beauty and courage.  Perhaps everything that frightens us is, in its deepest essence, something helpless that wants our love.”  (Rilke)

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“Today you are you, that is truer than true.  There is no one alive who is Youer than You.” (Dr Seuss)

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“How we spend our days, is, of course, how we spend our lives.” (Annie Dillard)

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Desiderata

“Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story. Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time. Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals; and everywhere life is full of heroism. Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass. Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul. With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.”

(Max Ehrmann)

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“Be a lamp, or a lifeboat, or a ladder.  Help someone’s soul heal.  Walk out of your house like a shepherd.”  (Rumi)

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I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet

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Why hello there!

Thanks for popping over.  What do you think of the slightly new-look blog?  I’m sprucing things up, slowly but surely.  So nice to make little changes here and there, breaths of fresh air!

I heard this quote by Gandhi the other day and was really struck by it.

So I made a collage!

It seems really empowering to me in the sense that you get to choose what you allow to enter your head. Your precious psyche.  You are actually able to choose if someone else’s rudeness, harsh words, negativity, patronising smile or ill wishes are going to ruin your day or not.  You decide if another person’s crap is going to take root in your mind, make itself comfortable, put its feet on your sofa and leave muddy tracks on your polished wooden floorboards.  The quotation reminds me to take nothing personally, to let pointless criticism go in one ear and out the other, and remember that however someone is acting it’s usually all about them, and has nothing to do with me.

So stop right there Mr toxic nastiness and Ms naysayer!  You’re going nooooo further!  I’m not going to perpetuate the bad feeling or let it gather momentum by reacting with equal impoliteness or whatever it is I’m on the receiving end of; I won’t compromise my integrity just because you’re having a bad day or hate your job or your life or more probably your self.

We have that power, and we are too important to give it away or put our sense of equilibrium or self-worth or self-anything into anyone else’s hands!

Yeah!

A happy what’s-left-of-Tuesday to you!

Love Jenny xx

PS.  Anyone else obsessed with The Bridge?

PPS.  I do love a good non-sequitur.

Hello, might I tell you that you’re beautiful?

Beautiful you by This Rosy Life

Feeling the love today my buttons!  I’m a firm believer in that which you pay attention to and focus on expands, so here’s to spreading the love and telling yourself you’re beautiful and loved!  You can say it or think it and not believe it (which always happens to me, why is it so bloody hard???  Like meditating!) but that doesn’t matter because you’re planting the seeds anyway, and the more you do something the more of a habit it becomes.  And even if you think its silly or you feel silly or self-conscious (even to yourself!) well so what, it’s a better way to spend your time than thinking negative thoughts about yourself and putting yourself down innit like?

It’s also true that every single thing you do today ( be it thoughts, actions, plans, reminiscing, deeds, whatever) you’re setting up your future with.  You are shaping and creating your future with whatever you do today, now, every second.

We have the power to be what we want to be!!!

Make sure the stuff you do today is in alignment with what you would like to be like tomorrow.  Easier said then done but we can try…

Today Im grateful:

♥ for Creativa, a lot of beautiful art, supplies and inspiration all under one roof.  ♥ for card games and red wine with Joe (especially as I won, ha ha!) for 4 day working weeks ♥ for Blogcast FM.  I’ve definitely said that before but really it’s soooo good!  Creative people’s stories about who they are and tips to become the person you want to be.  The stories are from creative entrepreneurs but it’s very spiritual and philosophical too, and Srinivas Rao‘s style of interviewing is intuitive and lovely!  ♥ for fun girls’ nights out with good friends ♥ for business advice from Lisa ♥ for knowing my limits (FINALLY! with alcohol!) and sticking to them ♥ for this lovely parenting website handinhandparenting ♥ for poinsettias and Christmas being round the corner. ♥  for catch ups with Connie. ♥ for surprises. ♥ for people making an effort. ♥ for Jamie and his smile and hugs for everyone, I LOVE THAT BOY and feel so privileged that he’s my son!

Wishing you a big bunch of flowers or a gorgeous smelling hyacinth in a pot, a friendly puppy giving you a hello bark, and a big radiant sun coming out of your heart!

Love Jenny xx

Today I´m grateful for….

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Getting Christmassy already! I LOVE Christmas!

Hello dear pixies of the internet

How are you this fine day?  I had a restorative weekend full of friends and fun, cava and invisible angels, and am now full of the joys of spring.  Or would be, if Autumn would deign to pay us a visit.  Ha ha that makes no sense, but that’s the way I like it!

So, I reckon my commitment to acting rosy, or at least trying to, is starting to pay off.  It’s sooooo not easy most of the time.  But I really think acting ‘as if’ and ‘faking it til you make it’, well there’s really something in those hackneyed phrases.  You get what you focus on, and your mind doesn’t really care if you’re just pretending, because eventually you start really feeling what you were pretending to feel.  Your mind doesn’t distinguish between what you actually feel and how you would like to feel.  Plant some seeds of positivity there and watch them grow!  Plant some negativity in your mind too and the same thing will happen!  It´s your choice. You really do get to choose what you put into your consciousness.  If you invite something into your life, quite often it will come along…

I’ve also been thinking lately about how the tiny moments of our day basically constitute our life.  The two are not somehow seperate, although we often see them as such.  How you live today or any given day basically equates to how you live your life.  There’s no dichotomy! Life is now, this moment, right now-what you’re thinking right now, how you´re acting right now, what you’re choosing to believe right now.

Whatever you are doing or feeling or thinking now in this moment is shaping your future.

Life isn’t going to start happening some time in the future when all these things we’re supposedly striving for arrive (if indeed they ever do arrive anyway)  It’s happening now so we have to start living it now!  And we have the power to live it how we want!! The journey is the point!  How you live is the point, that is the only thing you have any control over.

So I’m excited to say I think Monday will be my regular day of gratitude blog posts.  A great way to start the week, start off as I mean to go on.  Ideally of course it would be every day, but a week can be a microcosm of my life too, and I have to be realistic. There’s no way I have time to write every day, and I don’t think I would want to anyway.  I’ve also changed the time of my therapy sessions to Monday morning.  Hooray!  Everything in alignment!  Before you know it I’ll be up at 5 am chanting, meditating, doing yoga and reading poetry and inspiring quotations all before breakfast!

So here’s what I’m grateful for today:

For finding a small model of a hummingbird on the street.  I love hummingbirds! I will look up their significance.  For The Book Thief.  For passing on compliments and them being passed on to me.  For sunshine.  For booking Christmas flights to England.  For Arlene saying I was rosy.  For Mosquito.  For good conversations and connecting with like-minded people. For flea market finds and surprise stationery gifts.  For Joe’s solo bike escapades.  For pink skies at night. For rubber stamps.  For Brussels sprouts.  For Jamie’s enormous capacity for love and affection.  For Lisa making sure my logo for her homeless tour company was displayed prominently in the filming of one of her tours on Belgian TV!  For invisible threads, kind-hearted people, and everyone trying their best.  It’s all we can ever really ask.

Phew!  Hearty Congratulations for reading through to the end of this long blog post!

Wishing you long walks in crisp nature, relaxing music to start your day with (Einaudi?) gin and tonics by an open fire, and maybe a pub lunch with friends in the countryside…

And rosy wishes of course!

Love, Jenny xx

Wonderful Wednesday

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Hellooooo joyous jellbeans of love

How are you today?  The grey and coldish weather in Barcelona and the New moon on the 5th of September have been making me feel super organised!

I’m wanting to re-vamp and re-order and clear out the clutter to make way for GREAT NEW THINGS!  Nature abhors a vaccuum and all that, but you can’t bring in the new until there is space for it, so that’s what I’ve been doing, clearing space. Making my studio tidier and the storage more user-friendly.  Planners have gone up on the wall.  Post-its have been bought.  Lists have been made. Thoughts are occuring AS WE SPEAK of how I can snazzy up my blog and get my business ON TRACK!  Hells yeah!

I’m so excited I’m overdosing on capital letters.  Jamie starting nursery and today being a holiday in Cataluña has given me time to daydream and get excited…

Anyway onwards and upwards to this week’s list of love and gratitude.  Yay! for:

♥ Time, time, precious time ♥ Jamie’s lovely nursery right around the corner from us ♥ starting to find my voice (at last!  There you are my precious) ♥ the word precious, so pretty, just like preciosa in Spanish! ♥ feeling organised ♥ serendipity ♥ Gala Darling ♥ Blogcast FM ♥ Mayi Carles, just discovered her blog and her vlogging and she really is the bees knees! ♥ walking in the woods in the rain, that pine tree smell is amazing!!! ♥ Jamie and his insanely cute yellow raincoat and wellies ♥ solitary coffee dates in the morning with a book, I’m getting my old self back people!!!!. ♥ Joe finding interesting on-line film course ♥ Catching up with the always gorgeous Michelle and sparkly-eyed Ellie in my favourite cafe terrace. ♥ cheeky midweek gin and tonics…

What’s on your list this week lovebugs?

Sending you big rosy love and hugs

Jenny xx